A NOTE FROM MANDANA
It’s a universal feeling, one I imagine every single one of us has battled with at some point: the desire to be what everyone wants you to be. To be perfect. Or more accurately, the dread of never living up to the “shoulds” or the expectations. We’re taught to brand and package ourselves - to choose a lane, a title, a single story. I’ve never fit neatly into any one category, especially not the ones others had created for me, and the more I tried, the more I felt like a total sham.
Then I finally realized at 40…I don’t even want to fit into a box. It took years to accept that the thing I kept resisting was actually the truth: perfection lives inside the contradictions. Authenticity is the totality, not the edit.
So, let me properly reintroduce myself: I am Mandana Dayani. I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a wife. I am Iranian, Kurdish, Jewish, American, an immigrant, and a voter. I’m a lawyer, an agent, a brand builder, a marketer, an activist, an organizer, a political advisor, an investor, a podcaster, a producer, a learner, a chef, an aspiring gardener, and a failing minimalist. I love fashion and interiors, but I live in spreadsheets. I obsess over fonts and fabrics. I believe deeply in nuance, bridge-building, and holding the center politically…which essentially means I offend everyone equally. I am hopeful, spiritual, curious, goofy, blunt, and anchored by integrity. My family (and our dog) are my universe. Nothing brings me more joy than sitting at a table full of big ideas and dynamic people.
What I know now: I am not either/or. I am all of it. And I will no longer shrink, edit, or oversimplify to be more digestible.
Which brings me to this newsletter: It’s an invitation for you to do the same, and for us to do it together. Let’s create a space for complexity. For joy and discomfort. For contradiction and clarity. For the beautifully messy gray. No labels. No boxes. Just truth.
Each month, I’ll bring you what’s been on my mind and in my browser: the stories, ideas, and inspirations shaping how I see the world, plus the food, fashion, and little things that make it worth savoring. Because the best tables make room for everyone and everything: humor, heartbreak, politics, pop culture, pasta, parenting, playlists, and perspective. It’s messy, it’s human, and it reminds us how good it feels to be connected.
Welcome in and please, take a seat at my table.
FUN STUFF
The stuff I’ve tried, loved, and immediately texted everyone about.
WATCHED
1a. The Girlfriend | 1b. The Day of The Jackal | 1c. The Summer I Turned Pretty (I am team Jeremiah. Deal with it.) | 1d. Slow Horses | 1e. The Morning Show | 1f. Entourage (It is even better than the first time. So nostalgic and fun.) | 1g. The Twisted Tale of Amanda Knox
ATE
2a. Berenjak - Los Angeles (the kabob was 100/10) | 2b. Cucina Alba - Los Angeles (Orecchiette) | 2c. Carmel - Los Angeles | 2d. The Benjamin - Los Angeles (new favorite burger) | 2e. Yume - Los Angeles (garlic albacore roll) | 2f. Go Greek - Los Angeles | 2g. The Occidental - Washington D.C. | 2h. Le Diplomate - Washington D.C | 2i. Lucali - Brooklyn, NY | 2j. The Polo Bar - New York City
PURCHASED
3a. Westman Atelier Super Loaded Tinted Highlighter in Peau de Soleil (the legendary Gucci Westman sent me this product years ago, and I still use it every day) | 3b. Kosas Soulglazer Intensifying Waterproof Gel Eyeliner in Allure | 3c. KHAITE x Oliver Peoples 1978RX Glasses (twinning with my favorite person, Ashley Demoff) | 3d. Natasha Denona Hy-Gen Bronze Serum | 3e. ZW Collection Limited Edition 100% Suede Pants (so good) | 3f. The Grumeti Amanu Belt in Black | 3g. H+M Defined-Waist Twill Shirt in Brown/Plaid 3h. All The Cool Girls Get Fired by Laura Brown and Kristina O’Neill | 3i. Dinner Party Animal by Jake Cohen | 3j. Kimai Semi Hoop Earring (So easy to layer with everything) | 3k. Plaster Shell Uplighter by Rose Uniacke | 3l. Ferragamo Hug handbag (L) in Testa di moro (I can’t stop wearing this bag - it’s perfect)
| 3m. Sparkling Yuzu Juice (discovered this at Yume Sushi and now a staple in our home) | 3n. Flamingo Estate Golden Girls Brick Soap (genius as usual) | 3o. Saint Laurent Le Loafer Supple in suede Cognac | 3p. Ourokhome Manual Food Processor Vegetable Chopper (I buy everything Sivan's Kitchen tells us to, game changer)
Food is my love language. I feel most human when I’m cooking. It’s the only time I put my phone down, nobody bothers me, and I’m fully focused on one thing. It’s the rare kind of relaxation that still feels productive.
WHAT I MADE
Anyone that has ever set foot in my house has had my famous drink. Here is the recipe as shared by my friend, Ashley Graham on her Instagram.
MY SPECIAL TEQUILA DRINK
A few other favorites I made this month:
The most important moments of my life happen at the table. The feeling that we are part of something bigger, that we are all connected and rooted in hundreds of years of the exact same ritual. Here we explore the traditions, communities, recipes, and conversations that shape them.
AT THE TABLE
SHABBAT DINNER WITH MONA VAYNERCHUK | NYC
My dear friend Mona Vaynerchuk and I co-hosted a Shabbat together in New York - one of my favorite rituals, and her first time hosting at her new home. We wanted to create something relaxed and modern that still honored tradition.
It was the perfect mix of friends - old and new - and it was amazing how quickly everyone opened up. No topic was off-limits. Maybe it was because Mona and I insisted on only full-table conversations… or maybe it was the overabundance of cocktails. Either way, we went all in - stories, laughter, opinions, everything on the table.
In partnership with Mona, my favorite chef, Zachary Neman perfectly reimagined a menu of Persian Shabbat dinner staples using only Mona’s signature clean ingredients. Every dish was perfect - from a sprouted buckwheat and walnut kotlet to mushroom tahchin and a plant-based khoresht gheimeh bademjan, and my favorite recipe of his - Lemon Saffron Chicken. Of course, the first words out of my husband Peter’s mouth were how much better Chef Zach’s was than mine. See recipe above.
We used my Shabbat playlist as the soundtrack.
Of course, we served my signature drink (recipe above) with my go-to authentic tequila, Don Julio 1942.
It was one of those nights that reminded us how good it feels to slow down, eat beautifully, and lean into a little friendly gossip. (check out the Open Tabs section to see why this also makes us incredibly intelligent)
I’ve spent my entire career building brands - here we explore the launches shaping industries, the bold strategies and trends worth watching, and the standout campaigns sparking conversation - that tell us where brands (and all of us) are headed next.
BRAND FIELD NOTES
Don’t call it a comeback, the case of GAP
Gap has had its share of hits and misses. For years, it’s been chasing that tension between being the all-American basics brand and trying to add just enough edge to stay relevant. And then there was the Kanye combustion. I did not envy that marketing team that had to crawl their way out of that one. But you gotta give them credit - they’ve assembled a rock-star team to relaunch their beauty line (yes, that iconic Rain scent), tapped into niche cult collaborations with Sandy Liang and Katseye, and even cast Gwyneth Paltrow and her daughter Apple in a new ad. They’re reaching into every cultural bucket. And sure, some of it feels like spaghetti-at-the-wall marketing, but the brand feels alive again. (Also, I highly recommend their sweats)
The foodification of fashion and beauty
As a major foodie myself, I’m fascinated by the ongoing foodification of fashion and beauty. It’s not new, but it’s thriving. From Rhode’s lemon campaign to Loewe’s tomato bags to Flamingo Estate’s farm-to-fantasy empire, this cross-pollination is gaining significant vitality and continued interest from consumers - and I’m not surprised. In a world that feels increasingly flat, food evokes visceral emotion. It’s tactile, sensual, comforting. It’s love. It creates a multi-sensory connection - with colors that are incredibly vibrant and natural.
Fashion, but make it sporty
The other undeniable vertical seeping into fashion is sports. Of course, fashion and athletics have always been linked - who could forget David Beckham’s sarong? - but what’s happening now feels different. The line between the two worlds has disappeared. We’re as invested in what Coco Gauff wears on the court as we are in what comes down the Bottega runway or what Greta Lee wears to a premiere. Athletes’ tunnel walks are being covered in Vogue, and every luxury brand seems to have a pickleball capsule waiting in the wings. What’s new isn’t the crossover: it's the intimacy. The idea that we don’t just admire them; we can be them. We can buy their shoes, mirror their uniforms, channel their confidence. Athletes have become both muse and mirror, reshaping what aspiration looks like. It’s not about perfection anymore, it’s about participation.
Beauty’s big facelift
And then there’s the other big beauty evolution: the facelift got its own facelift. For decades, plastic surgery was Hollywood’s worst-kept secret - celebrities slipped out of surgical centers under fake names and came back “just hydrated.” Now, Kylie is tagging her plastic surgeon on TikTok. What changed isn’t just beauty - it’s the story around it. Transparency has become the new luxury. The more you reveal, the more authentic you appear. And this transparency will seep into how brands market themselves.
In a culture obsessed with control, curation, and self-presentation, the brands that will win are the ones that embrace honesty - the messy, the human, the real. Because whether you’re selling soda, sweatshirts, or serums, what people want most is to feel something.
PHONE A FRIEND
I’m endlessly grateful for the brilliant people I get to call my friends. When I don’t know what I’m doing - which is more often than I’d like to admit - these are the experts I turn to.
Called Dr. Anne Rimoin (renowned infectious disease epidemiologist) to ask about the measles outbreak (words I never thought I’d say in 2025) and what we’re supposed to do. She said nothing if you’re vaxxed, and if you’re not sure - just get vaxxed!
Asked Tiffany Bensley (founding team The Row, Violet Grey, Type Navy) which one beauty treatment I should do now, since I’ve been traveling so much. She said the gold standard is still CO₂ laser (it stimulates collagen production, refines skin texture, evens out pigmentation irregularities, and softens fine lines), but who does it matters, so do your research.
Asked Congressman Eric Swalwell (House Committee on Homeland Security, Subcommittee on Cybersecurity) whether the KOSA bill (The Kids Online Safety Act) stands a chance and how we can advocate for it. He said protecting our kids from online harm has to be one of our top priorities (as it is for him as a lawmaker and parent), and that reaching out to our legislators or advocating for it at a town hall is actually super effective.
I’m very excited about the return of the Balenciaga moto bag. I think I can get behind the comeback of the Chloe Paddington too. The Herve Leger bandage dress is a bridge too far. Texted Erin Walsh (renowned fashion stylist to Anne Hathaway and Selena Gomez) about the Fendi Spy Bag - just not sure if we’re really doing this. Thankfully, she confirmed we are not.
MOODBOARD
I’m starting a full home renovation, and these are some of my recent saves.
1. Jessica Nicastro | 2. Ryan Saghian | 3. Ralph Lauren | 4+5. Jaimie Baird | 6. Ralph Lauren | 7. Light and Dwell | 8. Jake Arnold | 9. Amber Interiors | 10. Brepurposed Design
OPEN TABS
Articles, ideas, and curiosities that linger, the ones still open in my browser and in my brain (is this why I have 45 tabs open at all times?).
Do the Democratic Socialists of America really believe in democracy? | The Washington Post
I was born under an authoritarian regime. My family left everything behind for the privilege of democracy and capitalism, and I worry people forget how fundamentally at odds socialism and democracy really are.
Doing almost anything is better with friends, research finds | The Washington Post
I love when science validates my habits. Friendship sustains my life and it’s something I never stop nurturing. This article reminded me of a favorite from a few years back.
Violence Entrepreneurs | No Mercy / No Malice
This isn’t a political crisis - it's a human one. Misinformation, guns, and neglect are colliding in ways that give lost young men the means to turn their anger into violence. Both sides have a responsibility to help repair it.
This isn’t crisis response. It’s crisis construction. | New York Times
Eight years ago, after seeing images of children separated from their families and held in cages, I flew to the first detention center in Tornillo, Texas. I quit my job and started building I am a voter. to help fix what felt so broken in our democracy. This country saved my life and granted us asylum, and I will never be okay with how we are treating the most vulnerable.
I asked a simple question at a pro-Palestine protest and it turned ugly | The Times
After decades of progress in understanding how language, actions, and communication shape empathy, I never thought we’d see antisemitism this overt again. Matthew Syed couldn’t even ask a question at a protest without being met with a torrent of abuse.
A conversation with Reza Pahlavi | Council on Foreign Relations
At a moment when so many are searching for hope and leadership, Crown Prince Reza Pahlavi offers both with clarity and conviction. He believes Iran’s future depends not on hope alone but on coordinated action from its people and the unwavering belief that democracy is within reach. His message is clear: the regime is weakening, and the time to act is now.
Gossiping is smarter than you think | Time Magazine
I’ve been waiting a long time for someone to prove me right on this one.
CLOSING ARGUMENT
The duality of me: A footnote of my favorite suit of the month and the condiment I’m putting on everything.
Brunello Cucinelli Corduroy Suit
“People waste their time pondering whether a glass is half empty or half full. Me, I just drink whatever’s in the glass.”
— Sophia Petrillo, The Golden Girls
I’d love to know what’s on your mind.
Questions, ideas, suggestions, recipes, early 2000s trends you’re considering - please send them my way: allofit@mandanadayani.com
Bungkus Bagus - Sambal Goreng